just another update..

I feel blessed.

That may be a correct description for my feeling now.

I have been very busy lately,

busy with my school,

my extra-curricular activity,

and my new to-do stuff (i.e. to look for jobs).

I am (finally) in the final year,

and that means I have to start looking for job and focus on my final year project.

I think time has passed too fast, I don’t really think that I have enjoyed my undergraduate life to the fullest.

Now, I only have 1 year, and I think I have to make use of this remaining 1 year to enjoy my undergraduate status.

About my internship, I have finished it last month and it’s been a great experience for me.

I did learn a lot from my internship, especially about the life of a working individual.

Many things have happened recently, but I don’t think I can recall each and every one of them now.

Probably I should write more frequently, so my blog can be more up-to-date.

Lastly, I think I am VERY BUSY now.

I really need a break.

Hopefully, I won’t do something extreme like skipping my classes and running from the reality by escaping to a place without any notices.

And what I can do now is only

wishing all of us the best for everything.

20

Irreversible.

Pursuit of lots of things.

Various interpretations.

In the search of something precious.

Reversible.

Evaluations.

Reflections.

Learning from experiences.

Constant.

Family.

Friendship.

Love to God.

…

Expect or not to expect

Lets talk about expectations.

Humans definitely have certain expectations for themselves and for others.

Some people will say that when you find yourself as more imperfect than others, you will place a high expectation on yourself.

Those people who think that they are not as perfect as others will admire those whom they think as ‘perfect persons’.

The reason is quite simple; once you are a little more perfect than others, (by default), you should not have too much expectations on yourselves anymore.

I have to say that this perspective is incorrect, because we must not forget there is also another perspective of expectation.

We also have the expectations put by others on ourselves.

For instance, our parents will expect us to be (let’s say) more hardworking; our friends will expect us to provide more time to go out together, etc.

It’s time to learn that EXPECTATION IS ENDLESS.

No matter how smart you are, how beautiful you are, how rich you are, and how talented you are; people will still expect more from you.

If you are a smart student, people will expect you to be behaviorally-perfect, polite, studious, and the list goes on.

If you are talented, people will expect you to master your talent well, to be able to show off your talents in a flawless manner, etc.

If you are rich, people will expect you to wear expensive clothings, to live like a socialite, to spend your money wisely, etc.

If you are beautiful, people will hope that your manner is also ‘beautiful’, your brain is also ‘beautiful’, etc.

I am not suggesting that it is good to be someone who is not rich, not smart, not beautiful, and not talented.

What I am trying to say here is that do not compare yourself with others.

Comparison to others is the root of all problems.

Having expectations is totally acceptable, but it is important to set a challenging, yet achievable expectation.

If you meet someone who is smart or rich, you may have expectations for them. But if they turn out to be people who cannot fulfill your expectations, just tell yourself, “YOU JUST HAVE NOT KNOWN THEM WELL ENOUGH.”

This sentence tells you that you have not known someone well enough, thus you have set a wrong expectation on him/her.

And if you have too high expectations for yourself, tell yourself, “THESE EXPECTATIONS MAY BE HARD TO ACHIEVE, BUT THIS IS NOT IMPOSSIBLE TO ACHIEVE.”

This sentence encourages you to work harder towards your expectations.

Failure is undeniable, but the most important thing is that you can show others that you can learn from your failure and use that as a lesson to success.

Edward de Bono, a Maltese physician and author, once said: “Unhappiness is best defined as the difference between our talents and our expectations.”

So from now on,

learn to know your talents, your capabilities, and your LIMITS.

Set reasonable expectations for yourselves.

And from now on,

learn to know others’ talents, others’ capabilities, and others’ possible WEAKNESSES.

Set reasonable expectations for them too.

So would you let me be..

This is my first post after a long time of “absence” from this blog.

Basically I am now doing my internship, so I don’t really have enough time to write and post something on this blog.

But anyway,

this post is just to introduce one of the songs from D’Cinnamons; a band from Indonesia.

I have listened to some of their songs in the past, but recently, I found this one particular song that really attracts my attention.

The song talks about someone who has decided to ‘abandon’ his/her friends because of someone he/she loves.

This happens frequently.

If your girlfriend/boyfriend think that you are too close with your friends and it is time to keep a distance with your friends for whatever reasons.

I personally see no point for this thing, except that your friends are those who really give a bad influence for you.

This song shows a sense of regret and disappointment from someone who has abandoned his/her friends for his/her lover.

The song said:

i left them all behind you, only for you
would you believe me
i put my trust on you
but deep inside i realize
that i can’t, no i can’t

Try to listen to this song, I have provided an imeem link for this song. Hope it works.

And of course, give your comments if you wish.

Link: http://www.imeem.com/montague/music/XDLD6mn4/dcinnamons-so-would-u-let-me-be/

Living your own dreams

I think everyone will one to be successful.

Everyone will one to be a perfect person.

And everyone wants to be liked and loved.

Those are all normal expectations of a human.

People get disappointed when they fail in certain situations.

People feel sad when what their dreams are not coming true.

But, people also feel sad (or you can call it, “jealous”) when they see the success of other people.

We can’t blame them, of course.

All of us must feel that way at any one point of our lives.

But anyway,

we have tried our best to equip ourselves,

studied hard so that we can be respected by others,

and dressed up so that others will like the way we present ourselves.

All those efforts are, of course, fine.

But the question will then be

“are we doing all those good efforts because of our dreams or because of other’s expectations?”

Of course, the answer can be both.

There’s nothing wrong about it.

As long as you work hard to be a better person, of course, that is good.

No one will want to care what your real motivation is.

As long as you can achieve a success,

people will appreciate you.

That’s all.

Full stop.

Rule of life.

 

I sometimes feel very confused about this situation.

Suddenly, dreams become useless things.

No matter what your dreams are,

you will eventually adjust them so that they fit into the expectations of others.

Some people just want to be themselves.

However, when they see how other people look like,

they then change themselves,

change the way they dress,

so that they look nice in front of other people.

Again, there’s nothing wrong about it.

But, is that the real you?

Question: do we want to always live under the shadows of others?

 

I know this post is a no-end post,

I haven’t thought of the ending, honestly.

But let’s just keep it like this first.

And we will talk about it later.

 

Please read my previous post that had a similar topic to what I wrote in this post.